Relationships..

Relationships are wonderful when they start out. They have that "New Car Smell". You never want to leave each others side and you can't wait until you see them again. They're the last thing you think about before you fall asleep and the first thing you think about when you wake up. You get that almost sickening feeling in you stomach, where it feels like your insides are being twisted up and you chest feels so much lighter, almost as if there's something missing in there. Blood rushes through your face and concentrate in you cheeks at the mere mention of their names. Everything seems so perfect like it will never end. Really and truly, it never has to. If things continue the way they are, you'll feel just as in love 50 years from now. Yet still, so many ''meant to be'' couples split up.

-People change. Maybe somewhere along the line, something happens and the love of your life begins to treat you differently... But why would they? As far as you're concerned, you're still the same person you were when you just met? So why don't they love you as much anymore? Maybe they're tired of you. Some people just can't stick to one thing for too long because they get bored of it; sick of singing the same old tune. So you get replaced by someone who brings a new form of excitement into their lives. So he stops whispering sweet things in you ear, and she stops leaving you those little notes, and they stop sending those ''i'm thinking about you''.. and you really do realize that things just aren't the same.. And sometimes, no matter how hard you try to get things back to the way they were, everything just continues to go downhill...

-People make mistakes. I've realized, that at the very moment that some sort of serious conflict arises in a relationship, that scars one or maybe even both partners because of something he or she did, EVERYTHING changes. Although they may decide to forgive the one who screwed up, things only get worse. The thing is, the wounds may get a bandaid placed over them, and they may be given time to heal, but the scars never fade and at every moment that the scar is seen, even for a second, those feelings of hurt and betrayal, and the memory of those bonds of trust that once tied you two so close together being broken come rushing back. It really is impossible to give someone your trust once more after they have already lost it. Trying to make things work after an incident like that may very well be pointless. Putting on that fake smile in an effort to forget what pierced your heart so deeply does more harm than good.

While it is heartbreaking that so many lovers split up, sometimes it's a GOOD thing...

ABUSE. Be if physical, or emotional, the moment that he/she starts to make me feel worthless and insignificant, it's time to ScaTTeR! No matter how much you care for them, or they claim to ''care about you'', if they really DID love you, they'd make you feel like the most important person in the world. I have a friend who's head over heels for her boyfriend, and sticks with him through thick and thin. She puts her HEAD in the fire for him because she believes in him THAT much. Whenever his temper gets in the way though, he starts to get verbal in a really nasty way. It Shocking ! The first time I heard something like that come out of his mouth my jaw dropped. And she didn't say anything. I really wanted to slap him at that point but getting physical won't really get us anywhere.. But I really feel it for her. After all he put her though, he really should be more appreciative. Truth be told, they're adorable when they're happy. But when things get to Swearing...

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I made mention earlier that one reason people close the book is because one of the partners change but it could also be the other way around. There are times when the person you fell in love with is trying to Change Who You Are. They literally tell you what you can and cannot do, and how you should act, and they try to change your entire character. In the end you aren't even the same person you were before. This is basically a form of rejection. It's basically saying, ''You're not good enough for me''. People may grow, and develop new interests, but generally, they remain the same person. The way I see it, if you can't love me for me, with all my flaws and kinks, then I"m not the one for you, and you're DeFinately NOT the one for me. So what should we do?

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Another reason for the break-up of relationships is IncOmPatiBility. Relationships begin because two people feel that they have a lot in common but as the years pass people grow, mature, and develop different interests which often cause them to grow apart. A lot of these relationships may be the ''rebounds''. Where you just get out of a really serious relationship and you fall for the first person that sweeps you off your feet. Eventually, the only thing left to do, since it was only infatuation, is to basically END IT.

 

So many failed relationships 

leave you heart and soul 

a broken mess 

which makes us reluctant to give it out again.

Some people find it better to just play around or forget about commitment entirely and just stay single, I love the feeling of knowing that there's someone who cares about me, who's willing to do whatever it takes to make me feel like okay because I"m ''the one'' for them.. So even after all the scumbags and jerks and dogs and pathetic losers that I've come across, I still believe that there's ONE person out there who has the key to my heart, and who'll also give me the key to theirs..

Life's about taking chances... If we went through life on the safe side, without any risks, 

it would be so boring, and uneventful. It IS okay to look before we leap, because we never really know the outcome to things.. But sometimes, it's okay to jump and take life as it comes... 

because if we didn't, we'd never learn anything Neu.. ღ